because nobody deserves to be unhappily married!
we’ve all heard similar stories.
wife finds out that husband has been having an affair. husband cries and begs for forgiveness. wife tells him she will give him one last chance. but the crying and begging works. every time. and so the wife is trapped in an endless cycle of unhappiness.
or how about this.
a couple married for 7 years with a young child. husband is bored and wants something more. he decides to “venture out”. unfortunately got found out. wife decides to forgive him and not go through a divorce because baby needs a complete family blah blah blah..
or how about the husband who has never loved his wife, but married her anyway because after five/seven/ten years of courtship, YOU ARE EXPECTED TO GET MARRIED. you know, she’s a really nice girl and you do not want to break her heart or be labelled as a jerk. after all, who says it’s easy for a 30-year-old woman to pick herself up after a failed 10-year-relationship? dumping her would be as evil as killing kittens and eating them for lunch etc
people hang on to unhappy relationships/marriages for various reasons. the most common reason –> convenience.
in fact, a guy once told me that he would rather hang on to a girlfriend whom he does not love than to be single. when he meets someone better, he can conveniently break off with the current girlfriend and start a new relationship. girls are guilty of the same mindset too.
你说爱我只是习惯，再也不是喜欢..
no breakup is easy and every reason for initiating a break sounds equally lame to me. but i still insist that everyone of us deserves to be in a loving and happy relationship. if you feel that you deserve more, you probably do (and pls go and do something about it instead of whining about the same thing to your best friend).
sometimes i do feel evil for thinking “aiyah, so unhappy, better divorce lah!” because marriage is forever, isn’t it?
but lately i’ve been thinking.. it’s better to be happily single than unhappily married, ne?
so, all unhappily married friends, please work your ass off on your marriage because maintaining a relationship requires effort. if nothing can salvage the situation, give each other the freedom to find your own happiness bah 
P/S: i am not anti-marriage or pro-divorce. i just don’t like to see people in unhappy marriages!
